The Total You Blog

I'm thankful

2011-11-23T15:35:00.002-07:00

As we approach Thanksgiving and the Christmas season, I pause to reflect on how truly grateful I am:

-For my health and the freedom to improve it each day
-For my family who loves me despite my flaws and quirks
-For my fur kids who remind me of simple pleasures
-For friends who have taken time to get to know me and include me in their circle
-For the ability to work...it really is a blessing
-For the opportunity to improve the quality of people's lives
-For God's mercy and grace.

What are you appreciating today?

Happy Thanksgiving!

The American Dream or Nightmare?

2011-08-24T15:21:00.002-06:00

When I climbed the ladder hard and fast in corporate America and reached upper management, I couldn't have been more disappointed. What I had been sold was a complete lie! You don't "enjoy" your job but rather get eye-ball deep into the red tape, politics and everything BUT what you love to do. I often think the American Dream has become many people's nightmares. Our pursuit of happiness has caused us blood, sweat, tears, pain, confusion and lots of stress. Am I saying the dream is dead? Absolutely not! Hear me out...

I believe each person should dream their own dream, not one sold or pushed upon them by our society. For me, a corporate job was not my dream. Once I understood that and created my own business, I have lived my dream. Others may find owning a home sheer work...then don't! Even obtaining "perfect" health and fitness may be overwhelming to some...so settle for "good enough."

My point, CHOOSE your own dream. Go after it with zest and quit living what someone else told you to pursue, which can become your nightmare.

Exercising in the heat

2011-08-08T13:17:00.002-06:00

Although the American Pediatrics Association is correct in stating that youth can exercise in heat, let us NOT forget that the part of the brain which houses discernment does not fully develop until one is in his or her 20s. That means as parents, YOU need to monitor their exertion for them. And the answer "fine" in reply to how they are doing shouldn't cut it. Ask kids "on a scale of 1 to 10, where are you?" In extreme heat, they shouldn't be above an 8. Check their coloring, ensuring they aren't going pale or white. Make mandatory water breaks a norm. And if your child is overweight, they will overheat faster. Also know that everyone is different. Some people have excellent cooling mechanisms while others do not. So yes, exercising in the heat is "okay" but watch carefully and help them understand their limits.

The Vault

2011-07-27T14:47:00.002-06:00

If someone told you that behind a steel store was 50 million dollars in which you could claim with the only condition being you had to open the vault, would you? Let me sweeten the deal...you are allowed to hire experts and use any tools you wish. Would you do it?

In my opinion, our health is worth far more than 50 million...it's priceless. Poor health will cost you much much more. Yet, so many people are NOT taking advantage of the experts (personal trainers, life coaches) and utilizing tools (exercise, eating right) to open their vault to good health.

If you wouldn't walk away from 50 million, then certainly don't stand by and let your good health fade away. DO SOMETHING! It's yours for the taking.

DEFINITELY!

2011-06-23T15:07:00.002-06:00

One of the songs I run to is trance song that repeats the word "definitely." I always feel inspired and fired up after hearing it. The word is powerful, meaning: unequivocally, without a doubt, strong affirmation and positively. Use it!

When you question whether you will exercise today, say DEFINITELY! When asked if you will reach your financial goals this year, exclaim DEFINITELY! To me, the word feels like a contract, binding us to our intentions.

Are you going to add this word to your daily vocabulary? Your answer is...

To Receive, BE!

2011-06-17T10:24:00.002-06:00

If you were looking for a great friend, would you pick yourself? Would you consider yourself the ideal mate?

Knowing what we want is not a bad thing, but when we fixate on it, we can sometimes forget to look at "what and who we are." Are you thoughtful? Kind? Giving? Do you honor your commitments? Do you reach out to people for no reason other than to ask "how are you?"?

If you are longing for a good friend, start by being one. If you want a loving mate, BE loving.

See it!

2011-06-14T08:48:00.002-06:00

As a personal trainer and life coach, I help people reach their goals. I adapt and customize my approach to each individual, but the ones who truly obtain success are the ones who SEE it.

As I was running yesterday, I saw the exact exercises I was going to do when I returned. I saw myself doing one-armed bicep curls and overhead triceps. I saw each and every one to their completion. Seeing it helped me plan it, and my plan helped me execute it. Seeing myself accomplish what I wanted to do also gave me energy and boosted my confidence that I could and WOULD do it. And by the way, I did.

What do you see? If you focus on the distractions, hurdles and obstacles, then you will fall prey to them. Try seeing yourself DO what you want to do. See yourself enjoying it, and see how great you feel because you did it! See yourself as a winner, and you will be one.

Shift

2011-06-08T16:29:00.003-06:00

I still miss having a stick shift, even though I have had my automatic since 2005. The active motion of moving from one gear to another is thrilling! I don't feel near as engaged with driving when my car does all that for me.

Shifting is an action I believe we need to do with our thoughts, otherwise they are left to do whatever they want. Think of the gears 1-2-3-4 and 5. Negative thoughts do come because we are human; however, do not get stuck in first gear. Rather, shift quickly into second. Do not stop at second because doubt usually resides there. Shift into third and begin seeing things for what they are...the truth, the reality...not fear-based visions. As you move on into fourth, doubt turns to faith and belief. When you make that last movement into fifth, you see all the solutions and possibilities!

Just like driving on a long road trip, we will continually be shifting from gear to gear. Make it your goal to get to fifth for smoother sailing!

Capacity

2011-05-02T13:44:00.000-06:00

The words "God doesn't give you more than you can handle" have challenged me at times. I've often wondered, "Did God confuse me with someone else, because this is too much!?" Yet, each and every time that I have felt "maxed out" or reaching "my" limits" God has certainly come through to grow my capacity either through His strength or my lessons learned.

New abilities aren't always comfortable. In fact, they can be downright painful. How do you enlarge your heart...by giving more of it away. How do you increase your tolerance...by encountering situations that test you. Want to be more patient...expect greater challenges. I think we underestimate our capacity to cope, and we certainly don't trust God near enough to meet us right where we are and deliver exactly what we need...at the precise time we need it.

We need each other

2011-03-29T14:14:00.000-06:00

Baby Boomers have often been called the "Me Generation" as they pursued their careers and affluent lifestyles. From my perspective, they were instrumental in helping our culture turn from one of "work your fingers to the bone only to get bony fingers" to "working hard for their money and having fun while doing it." In other words, striving for some life balance is an admirable goal. Gen Xer's came along and attempted to create even more of a balance between work and home. What concerns me about the latest group is that they seem to be swinging so far over to self that I might say they are the "Not You Generation." This shift is alarming to me. We are made for relationship and connection; we need each other. Text messages, IM's and social media are a false, flat and one-dimensional contact that lacks depth, sincerity and emotion. I don't believe they are intentionally building a wall around themselves, but the result is the same: loneliness. Stats are reporting the increase in depression and feeling of isolation. What is even scarier to me is how these folks are influencing all others. In an attempt to keep up, everyone seems to be forgoing traditional ways of communicating and connecting, interacting less. I'm not saying that all these modes are bad, but let's remember that a computer screen or phone display will never replace the sense of touch from a pat on the back or warm embrace from a friend. We are humans, and we need each other!

Peace begins with you!

2011-03-16T13:16:00.001-06:00

If we truly want peace in the world, we must first end the battles that rage within. You may not even realize it, but you are at war! Battles of low self esteem and anger plague many while the bombs of broken relationships burst around us. You and only you have the power to forgive or forget...the power to let go and move on...the power to be and live differently.

Say "enough already!" and chose to end the war once in for all! Peace begins with you...and me.

Your BUT is too big!

2011-03-02T13:08:00.000-07:00

Today, I was scheduled to go for a run, BUT I've been fighting something. I wanted to get the dog out, BUT the weather wasn't as nice as they predicted. I knew I would feel better if I would just get out there, BUT I really didn't feel like it! Lots of BUTs!

How often do your BUTs get in the way? Our BUTs get big only when we let them! So my response back to my BUTs was 1) So what 2) Too bad 3) Just do it! So I did, and yes, I feel better knowing my neither my BUTs or butt got bigger. Make the right choice for YOU today.

Make it a NEW Year!

2011-01-03T11:12:00.000-07:00

Last year is in the past. For many, 2010 was a rough year. We all faced many challenges. I suspect 2011 will have its own trying times. We can, however, ensure that it is a NEW year by doing some things different. Here are some suggestions...

1. Tackle a fear head one. Once and for all, be done with it! Seek help if you need it, but make this the year that you are no longer controlled by that fear.

2. Understand the difference between "can't" and "won't." Saying we can't handle something dis-empowers us. But when we choose not to deal with something, we are in the driver's seat. Look at some stress factors in your life...what WON'T you allow in your life anymore?

3. Reach beyond your current circle of friends and make a new one. President Bill Clinton once said that if your network consists of people who all look alike, you don't have a network...you have an ant hill!

4. Try something new. Look for a fresh approach to a situation or a creative, unique solution to a problem.

5. Stop procrastinating on one thing...right now! Just do it and get it over with. When you do, celebrate! You just made it a NEW year!

Have a back up plan

2010-09-20T14:51:00.000-06:00

As a personal trainer and coach, I hear all sorts of reasons why people didn't exercise or follow through with their assignments. Life does happen...every day. And it will throw us curve balls. I believe those who achieve their goals are the ones who are prepared for their "what ifs."

Recently, I got approved and accepted to train for the Aerobics and Fitness Association of America (AFAA). They are the world's largest certifying agency. The program I will teach is Indoor Cycling, and in one segment, we discuss the "what ifs." What if the mic is broken? What if you forgot your music? What if the electricity goes out? A good instructor has back up plans and is able to confidently handle the situation. Our personal life is no different.

What if your workout buddy is sick? What if a meeting ran late, and you just missed your favorite spin class? What is the weather turned bad, and you can't exercise outside? Have a back up plan like a jump rope (10 minutes of jumping rope equals 50...yes 5-0...minutes of running) or swim suit in your car to do laps. If everything has hit the fan, then jog in place with high knees or do jumping jacks. Something IS better than nothing.

And here is the truth. If you forgo exercising today for a good reason, it is easier to create excuses tomorrow. One day turns into weeks, which turns into months and then years. Don't let your "what ifs" turn into "oh wells!"

The race isn't always to the swift...

2010-05-14T16:32:00.000-06:00

I certainly didn't break any records running my first marathon, but I enjoyed myself. I witnessed the sun coming up over the mountains as the birds awoke. As I followed the river, it's steady sound put me in a trance. I thanked all the volunteers at every stage for being there with fresh water and a smile. I prayed, sang along with hymns and was just thankful to be able to even consider such an undertaking as this. This race wasn't about being swift for me; it was about stamina, determination and endurance.

At some point in our lives, we have a battle. Mine most recently was Lyme Disease, which I beat with a lot of hard work and prayer. This marathon was my celebration of a completely healthy and balanced body. Before the gun was shot at o-dark-thirty in the morning, I had already won!

So remember this: "Life's battles don't always go to the stronger or faster man. But sooner or later the man who wins is the fellow who thinks he can."

It's all in the state of mind...

Quit Complaining

2010-05-05T13:27:00.000-06:00

I recently asked a lady who moved to Colorado how long it took her to adjust to the sporadic weather, which I'm having difficulty with since living in Southern California. She replied, "It took me five years." Curious about that, I asked, "What happened at five years." She simply stated, "I quit complaining."

The weather did not change nor did it become less sporadic. She simply "chose" to stop complaining about it and move on.

How simple a principle. Try applying it to life...not as easy. BUT, it can make a big difference in our perspective, thereby changing "us," which is all we have control over.

So, I will attempt to embrace our 80 mph winds when they come and see the beauty in snow that falls in May. The wind blows the weather out or new weather in, and the snow brings well-needed moisture to the Rocky Mountains so that we may not thirst.

Marathon training

2010-04-15T07:50:00.001-06:00

Never being one to enjoy running (I like the results of running), deciding to run a marathon to celebrate being pain-free for 8 months now seems odd. Yet, it is perfect. I wanted something that would challenge my body...and my mind!

And, I've learned a lot from my long-distance running. Sure short runs are easy, but they aren't near as rewarding. Besides the fact that you do get endorphines to kick in on longer runs, you get further out...often seeing things you'd miss on the shorter one. One path I've been using goes through a beautiful neighborhood then around a lake. Most stop there, but then it turns and heads through farmland with majestic mountain views. It's exhilerating!

Longer run also clear your mind and perfect your running form. It's like anything else, the more you do it, the better you get. I just had my teeth cleaned. I floss every day, but my dentist said I was rushing through the process. Just "doing" something isn't enough...do it well! You can't cheat on long-distance running or show up ill-prepared for a marathon. I think we could benefit from the same mentality in life! Go the distance and do it to the best of your ability!

Bad habits

2010-02-22T11:30:00.000-07:00

I just tried out my new skis on Friday. Man, has equipment come a long way! The edges grip like glue, and the new size allows much more control with little bumping and bouncing. Sweet!

What I learned, however, about myself is that I allowed some bad habits to form. The new equipment can certainly improve my skiing, but I needed to get back to some basics and reform better habits...keeping my hands in front of me, not behind...leaning forward, using my quads not leaning back in the boot. These minor adjustments will make a big difference in my skiing performance.

And it reminded me that we can all benefit from small adjustments that can make big differences. The problem is we often get too close to ourselves to notice we've fell into some bad habits. That's where a life coach can help...give you honest feedback and look towards minor tweaks to make great improvements. Let me know if I can ever be of help!

Good Reminders

2010-01-06T11:24:00.000-07:00

I've decided to do my first marathon this year. Training outside in Colorado during the winter has given me some great reminders that apply to our personal and professional lives and are quite appropriate as we start a New Year.

1. Even if you have the skill, you better have the right equipment! Trust me, California gear doesn't cut it in 20 degree weather with ice pellets blowing in your face!

2. You MUST know your why. When things get tough (or freezing cold), your why will keep you focused on why in the world you are running in 20 degree weather in the first place! For me, my marathon is a celebration of being pain free after a very long health battle.

3. You better have purpose and a plan to keep me moving. You don't want to stand still very long in 20 degrees to figure out what you are doing. And you can't afford to make mistakes....so very true of our economic condition right now.

4. The first few minutes of any endeavor are always the worst. Stay focused beyond that to keep me moving. I thought my hands and face would fall off today, but I kept moving. Eventually, my body warmed up (relatively speaking!).

5. And, if you need to take a break, make it quick! The longer you stop something, the harder it is get to going again. Try running in 20 degrees...it's a great motivator to keep moving!!

I will try to keep you posted on my progress and training adventures. As always, I enjoy hearing from you.

Apollo 13 lesson

2009-12-10T10:18:00.001-07:00

We recently watched the movie Apollo 13 that stars Tom Hanks...based upon the true story of the NASA mission. When everything hits the fan and they realize the mission will not be completed, one of the NASA team members says, "This is going to be the most embarrassing moment in our history." The flight commander corrects him and firmly and confidently replies, "I think this is going to be our finest hour."

The team of people who solved complex issues and overcame all obstacles did not accept failure as an option...even though all the data was pointing to losing their astronauts. Those men returned home, and the mission went down in history as the "most successful failed mission." The team's goal of landing on the moon was replaced with simply surviving...making it back home to their families.

During the tough times we are facing individually and collectively, we have a choice on how we will respond. Will we look upon our challenges as the worst of times or will we decide that this may indeed be the opportunity for the best in each of us to shine brightly?

Multi Generations

2009-12-09T14:14:00.000-07:00

Since I was in high school, I've been studying the unique generations and how the culture has shaped each of them. For the first time in our history, we have four different generations working together...or trying to anyway. Family life is no exception with multi-generations living under one roof. As conflicts and frustration rise, let me just offer some very basic suggestions (fyi...I have an excellent program that helps one understand the strengths of each generation and how to work together towards a common goal...contact me for more information):

1. Spend time with your elders. The Traditional or World War II Generation have lived through a wide range of life experiences. They have lived with and without. Their wisdom is priceless. Ask questions, listen and learn before it's too late. Besides, you will someday be considered an elder.

2. Encourage and support your peers. We are all on a journey trying to find our way. Let us not get so caught up in ourselves that we forget to offer a helping hand to those who need it. The holiday season is the perfect time to phone friends with kind words or a listening ear. Stuff is just stuff. We're all on this planet together, and we need each other.

3. Invest in our youth. Rather than complain about what they aren't doing, help kids develop areas they are lacking. Volunteer, mentor, coach, train or simply cheer our younger generations on. We'll get from them what we expect, so expect great things!

Lorraine is on Facebook

2009-05-31T20:44:00.000-06:00

I haven't been blogging, but I have been Facebooking. If you are on, look me up! It's a great way to stay in touch...share ideas and have some fun.

Tea Party

2009-04-15T20:15:00.001-06:00

I was very pleased to see our town respectfully holding American flags today in our fight to regain our country. We drove up and down the street honking our horn in support, and we heard many other folks doing the same.

My only fear is that our outrage will disappear by week's end. If you haven't seen V for Vendetta, I urge you to watch it carefully. It's fiction but not far from the truth...what could be the truth if we continue to sleep walk and allow the government to own our lives and ruin our country.

One sign that really caught my eye: Silence is acceptance. America...we have been silent too long. We let prayer be pulled from our schools which led to taking the word "Christ" out of Christmas. We've let terror invade our schools, and we're giving away all that our fore Fathers worked so hard to protect.

To all who participated, may it just be the start of our involvement in letting government know...we aren't going to take it any more!

Check Your Temperature

2009-03-04T07:27:00.000-07:00

I recently attended a discussion on Intelligent Design, and the host reminded us at the beginning what a controversial subject it is and to take our own temperature before we participated. She used the analogy of a meat thermometer...the kind that pops out when the meat is done. Well, she said if anyone got to heated/hot over their opinion, she'd yell out "the roast is burning!" We all laughed.

What a GREAT way to measure how we are doing...in any conversation. Most arguments or conflicts are a result of not getting our way or someone not seeing our view point. We have a clash of ideas, desires, values, etc. If we monitor our temperature and are aware that "our roast may burn" if we aren't careful, we could defuse some situations before they even start. Besides, who likes burned meat?

Gotta move

2009-02-17T17:32:00.000-07:00

I've been sitting at a desk a lot more lately than I am used to, and I'm finding that I munch more. I'm not a muncher! It isn't that I'm hungry or even bored. I'm busy enough. I got to thinking that my movement creates energy for me. Sitting still depletes it, thus creating a feeling like I "need" something. So, I'm walking the stairs more and moving as much as possible to curb the cravings. Awareness is the first step. Worth exploring why you might munch and looking for solutions. I certainly don't want a winter layer to have to work off in the summer!!

How Great We Are

2009-02-11T19:57:00.000-07:00

I've been learning more about puppies, and I've come to realize that they think they are pretty great. Give them a bone, and they say, "Hey, I'm such a great pup that I got a bone." Give them a hug, and they say, "Wow, I'm such a loveable pup." Buy them a new toy, and they say, "I deserve that new toy because I am the greatest pup ever!" They don't quite seem to get that their owners have something to do with it.

This made me think of how we can often think of ourselves. God gives us special talents and abilities, and we say, "hey, I'm pretty great." I think that we can often forget WHOSE we are and and WHY we are. Our goodness comes from Him, plain and simple. I'm not saying we are worthless...I'm not into the beat ourselves up. To me, that isn't honoring God. But acknowledging that God gave us all that we have and made us all that we are is important...even critical.

Perhaps that is why the song "How Great Thou Art" continues to be a classic...to remind us of who really is great!

Ups and Downs...and Flats of Life

2009-02-05T18:28:00.000-07:00

We went skiing on Superbowl Sunday. What a great day to go...everyone was gearing up for the game. The snow was fantastic. We were able to go up, ski down and immediately go back up and repeat. We skied enough for two days worth I think!

It made me think about life, as most things do. Some times we can feel like all we do is climb up hill. But I think we forget about the times when we get to zip down. They go so fast they they are but a mere memory. Yet, they are good times and part of life. Let us not forget them.

Then there is the flats of life. We encountered way too many cat walks at Winterpark. They require extended push and pull, and you don't feel like you are getting anywhere. At least with a hill, you feel each step getting you closer. These days feels like flat times. We are all drudging along doing the best we can. The end doesn't seem in site...or feels so very far away.

I encourage you to remember the fun times and moments when it went smoothly and easily. We all have them. In Biblical days, people would erect Standing Stone monuments so that they wouldn't forget the good that God had done.

Zipping down the slopes in tucked position, skiing as fast as I could, I was reminded of good times. I mean the snow was great, the skies blue and the people scarce. Hold on to your good memories. They will get you through, and they will come again.

What I'm Learning from my Puppy

2009-01-20T15:44:00.000-07:00

Kuma turns 4 months old on Monday. He's growing like a weed! Never having a dog in my life, this has been a new experience for me. Dogs are way more work than cats, but they are more interactive. And, I'm learning some valuable lessons:

-Play EVERY day!
-Moving creates energy
-You can't get or give enough kisses to those you love
-Walking not running can be just as fun
-When it is 20 or below with high winds and snow, sometimes the fireplace is a better option
-Sometimes you just have to howel!! :)

Be Engaged

2009-01-14T16:31:00.000-07:00

Recently, two teenagers were caught smashing in the windows of 17 car windshield in Loveland, Colorado. When the police asked them why they did it, their reply was "We were bored."

With all the ways we have to stay connected these days (cell phones, text message, Facebook, blah blah blah), you would think we would be busy. The reality, as I see it, is that people are being put into a trance, thus why these feel bored. They stare at computer monitors, cell phone screens and Blackberries but aren't "in the moment." Life is literally passing them by, and they don't know it.

Life is a big, exciting adventure. But if we rely on technology and others to "feed us," we will miss the ride.

I have ran into two families who opted not to buy a single Christmas present this past December. On Christmas day, they played games instead of opening gifts. They interacted, laughed, hugged and spent quality time together. What a concept!

I think 2009 is going to force of to evaluate how we have been progressing (or digressing in many ways) and look for a better way. I hope we snap out of it and start participating in life!

Another Year

2009-01-08T11:49:00.000-07:00

The calendar page turned, and here we are in 2009. Although knowing what we did right and didn't accomplish last year is helpful, we reach a point where we must move forward. Don't beat yourself by constantly looking back...look forward! Create a better year by being "in" every day of your life.

Times are indeed tough, but we all have something to be thankful for, so concentrate on that and put your energies into things that you have control over...basically yourself! We can change our attitudes, not others. We can make steps towards being healthier but cannot force someone else to do it. We can be more responsible with what we have and be an outstanding role model for others.

Here's to a better year, one day at a time.

No Excuses!

2009-01-04T15:59:00.001-07:00

Happy New Year! I don't know what your weather is like, but here in Colorado it has been cold with highs in the 20's.

I've been wrestling with these temperatures since I got spoiled living in Southern California for six years. As I told myself that it was just too cold outside to run, I decided to attack each and every excuse with a solution. And you know what? We always have options!

So, with umpteen layers of clothing on, a hat, a hood, gloves and apprehension, I went for it today...running in 25 degrees. My face hurt for the first 1/4 mile...note to myself that this is not an excuse...get a face mask...otherwise, I felt pretty good. I brought along my new puppy for moral support. Alas, this helps the excuse of having no one brave enough to venture out with me. He was game--sorta. He wasn't happy for a spell but then warmed up.

All this to say, instead of submitting to your excuses this year...attack them logically with solutions. What do you need to overcome them? Even if it is time itself, we all have things we waste time on that we can forgo in order to exercise. And remember, it doesn't have to be hours worth. Jumping rope for 10 minutes will do the trick. If you are telling me you don't have 10 minutes to spare, well then, you do have serious problems.

Count Your Blessings

2008-12-24T15:07:00.000-07:00

We just watched "White Christmas," and I love the song about falling asleep counting your blessings.

In a day with cut backs, job losses, financial downturns and housing market crashes, we can worry...a lot. We must remember that worry doesn't change anything...other than make us ill! Focus on what you have, the good things in this world and count your blessings!

Merry Merry Christmas!

A Gift for Yourself

2008-12-22T08:35:00.000-07:00

I just finished reading The Shack. What a powerful, emotionally-charged and life-changing story it is! This Christmas, give yourself a gift and read it.

One of the points that touched me the most was the conversation about forgiveness (don't worry, I won't blow the story for you) and how we let those who hurt us control us by not letting go. In fact, by thinking we are "showing them" by not forgiving them, we are doing just the opposite; we are letting them win and get the best of us! Hate is like a cancer...it will grow and take over.

By forgiving those who hurt or harm us, we are letting go of the ugliness inside of us...freeing it for God to handle. What I liked most about the story in the book was how God told Mack, the main character, that it was okay to still be angry. Anger and hate are two separate things. When a person does a sinful, wrongful act, it is still sin and wrong. We are justified in our anger, but holding on to it won't do us a bit of good. AND the big one for me...just because we forgive someone doesn't mean we have to be best friends. If they don't show remorse or change their ways, you aren't asked to subject yourself to more pain. You simply turn them over to God, who loves them despite themselves.

And this brought me to another gift you should give yourself this Christmas...forgiving yourself. We all make mistakes, say the wrong thing and fall short, but praise be to God that He loves us despite "ourselves." Blessings,

Merry Christmas!

2008-12-19T14:04:00.000-07:00

Boy has December gone fast! Even though I plan ahead for the holidays, it always gets crazy right about now.

As if to remind me of His peace, we had a gorgeous frost this morning topping off the snow we received earlier in the week. Just beautiful.

I think we all need to slow down, take a deep breath and appreciate all the goodness in the world. The best gifts are those of health, friends, family...laughs, love and joy.

No Kidding

2008-11-18T16:42:00.000-07:00

I have been quiet long enough. Living in California for 6 years really confirmed my fear that our children are missing their childhood. And it seems to be spreading to other parts of the country. Kids are being pushed into everything and everything, packing their schedules from morning to night with activities. I see it all the time...the kids being woken at the crack of dawn and getting home late into the evening, grabbing dinner along the way, usually junk. This is all in the name of love??? Hogwash says I.

What happened to FREE time?? What happened to watching the clouds form and make shapes? What happened to being home and finding creative things to do that require imagination? I am shocked and saddened when I hear some parents say, "I would be afraid that they would get in trouble with the extra time." YIKES! That is why they have parents! But apparently, parents want to farm off that responsibility to soccer coaches, band leaders and activity leaders. Sigh. Kids need rest. Kids need time to be kids. We have the rest of our lives to have packed schedules with no buffer zone. Why set them up for heart attacks by the age of 21??

Let's not allow another generation of kids be ill-equipped or worse yet, just ill.

Wake Up and Pay Attention People!

2008-11-15T17:12:00.001-07:00

I laugh every time I see the commercial for Pepsi Max, "Wake up people!" Unfortunately, it is too close to reality. People are under spells...walking zombies! They don't ever seem to be "in the moment" or aware of their surroundings. The other day, a woman was so busy talking on her cell phone, that she couldn't manuever her vehicle out of the parking space. Instead of getting off her phone and driving, she just stopped and blocked traffic in two directions. In the grocery store, a lady was placing one item every so often on the checkout stand because she was holding her phone and couldn't do both things at once. Again, she didn't stop talking but expected the line of people behind her to What is up people!

Have we lost all sense of courtesy and manners? I was raised better than that, and most mothers would hope they did the same. We are getting lazy and self-centered. Stressful and tough times can bring out the worst in people...don't let it happen to you! I jokingly say that the government must be releasing stupid gas in the air, because people are doing stupid stuff! But it is just a matter of waking up, paying attention and being kind. If we each treat another person with a helping hand and smile, we might see a different world emerge.

Holidays

2008-11-13T15:41:00.000-07:00

Right about now, I could swear that time speeds up with each minute ticking away much faster...like nano seconds! It's the holidays, and it can be stressful.

Years ago now, I decided that I wanted to actually enjoy the holidays, so I started planning further out with my shopping and such. I'm about done :) What a huge difference it has made! I can hum songs, soak up events and not feel pressured. I am saddened when I hear folks dread the holidays because of the work involved. This is a season of LOVE, and it should be celebrated!

Take a look at the ideas I've posted to help you get back your spirit. Have any you would like to share with others? Let us know!

Be Careful America

2008-11-06T07:50:00.000-07:00

Like you, I have read about and seen many of the parties and celebrations about our new President. He indeed ran a great campaign and achieved something no other person has ever done in our history.

I caution us all, however, to be careful. As a society, we do not have a great track record of knowing what we really want. Look at the women's lib movement...all that got women was more stress, heart attacks and negative attitudes towards men. I love the line in Bruce Almighty when Bruce is frustrated and confused about all the prayers, so he gives everyone a "yes"...creating havoc and chaos in the city. God replies (played by Morgan Freeman), "Since when do you humans know what you want?"

Wanting can be a very immature and selfish mind set. Wanting often leads to expecting and expecting to demanding. Demanding then can explode into full-blown attack to get what we want WHEN we want it. In any relationship (family, friends, church, city or government), we need to be careful and perhaps take a more mature approach than "wanting" what we want, whatever that may be. In my opinion, desiring and hoping are a more positive way to approach all relationships. Desire and hope require faith. We do not know exactly how or even IF we will get our heart's desire, but we believe and hope.

And I think that is what America needs right now...not wanting, expecting or demanding it from anyone but believing, having hope and keeping our faith.

Puppy Love!

2008-11-05T14:31:00.000-07:00

I will be the proud owner of a Shiba Inu puppy on 11/21 when I get to take the 8 week old puppy home. I've been reading up on puppies and training dogs as I have never had one before.

Shiba Inu's are a Japanese breed, smaller and quiet intelligent. We named ours Kumaito, which means little bear in Japanese. What I liked about the breed is that they are more like cats. It takes a little time to establish rapport, trust and a bond. You have to earn it. I appreciate that.

I think too often, we want things to go fast and on our time tables. Cats, and apparently Shiba Inu's, remind us that some things take time. And not everything happens on our time table.

A good reminder for us the day after election. Things either went exactly as you wanted them or they didn't. In the big picture of things, it doesn't matter. It's not our wants or timetable; it is God's.

So with my excitement and anticipation of a new member of our family, we also have a new day arising in our country.

PS I'll post a picture of Kuma for you :)

Seasons

2008-10-27T14:38:00.001-06:00

No, I'm not referring to the fall colors, although they are quite lovely this year. What I'm thinking of today is the seasons of life. Today, I had lunch with a man who was my boss some 20 years ago. He was a great boss...kind and fair. Because you work closely with someone, you get to know them and their family. However, life can take you in different directions. Through the years, we lost touch.

As a young person, I would have considered this a failure...like I just didn't work hard enough keeping the relationship going. But his wife was in the military, so it was hard to keep up with them. But today, especially after a very enjoyable lunch together, I realize that life is full of seasons. Some people come into our lives to stay forever while others come in for a season. And others come and go depending on circumstances. Life changes. If we live right, we can see someone every day or not for years and still feel connected by our friendship.

The Power of One

2008-10-24T14:09:00.000-06:00

You couldn't pay me enough money to take on the Presidency position. No matter who is elected, they have a tough job ahead of them. But if I were out campaigning, I'd suggest that it wasn't for the President to fix. Rather, each one of us needs to do our part by taking responsibility.

I wouldn't make big promises that I couldn't keep, but instead I would ask that each American do something small...one small change for the better: reduce your debt by living within your means, volunteer in the community to help those who are struggling get a hand UP not a hand OUT, do your job extremely well with high integrity, seek to give to this country and not take from it, support those who fight for our rights, pray for those who take advantage of those rights and love our country despite its flaws, warts...despite ourselves.

One by one, we can make a difference.

Think Positively

2008-10-09T16:39:00.000-06:00

You have heard the saying that "we are what we eat", right? Well, remember that we become what we think!

I've been reading the paper since we moved to Colorado, and you know what? It's bringing me down! It is full of depressing news. Even though it has plenty of local flavor, the doom and gloom reports can wreak havoc on your mental state.

So here's a thought: let's focus on what we DO have. Let's be thankful for all the blessings and goodness in our lives. Let's be grateful for health, love, friendship and family.

Want to take it step further? Write God a letter telling Him how much you appreciate WHO He is, WHAT He has done, and ALL that He has given us.

What if...

2008-10-08T13:28:00.000-06:00

What if the candidates running for election (regardless of position, city, state or party) took the money they would spend on throwing mud and spinning issues in their sickening commercials, which has to cost a pretty penny during prime time, and actually put that money into REAL solutions for America's economy?

What if the money spent to slam opponents through four-color, high-gloss, expensive mailings was actually used to pay down some of our country's debt?

What if Hollywood stars who bash this country and its leaders adopted a city and gave money to help the hurting and rebuild what is broken?

What if celebrities who love the limelight spent more time giving and serving than smiling in front of the camera?

What if all Americans looked in the mirror at what we needed to fix rather than blaming someone else?

What if all of us could do our part, no matter how small, to make this country great again?

My Head Hurts!

2008-10-06T17:05:00.000-06:00

No, it is not the political garbage going on or the ridiculous solution of a "buy out" (although they are both making my stomach turn) that has my head pounding--it's my own stupidity!

How many times have I heard, read and even said myself: if you keep doing the same thing and expect different results, you will go insane? Arg! I'm guilty of pushing and pulling at my business trying to make certain things work, but I keep getting the same outcome: zilch.

I don't know what it was about the changing of the leaves I saw this weekend (maybe the hope that it represents...we can change), but I was reminded and inspired that if I want something different, I have to BE and ACT different. So, without giving you the boring details, I have some plans to do some things differently.

Even if things don't go as I hope, at least I won't have a big, red bump on my forehead from hitting it against my desk out of shear frustration! Anyone relate or is it just me?

The Worst or Best of Time?

2008-10-01T17:31:00.000-06:00

Have you ever lost a hour? I got off track yesterday and thought it was an hour later than it really was, so I gained an hour! That was cool. Have you ever lost a year? I had one birthday where I thought I was a year younger than I was, so in one day, I aged two years! That wasn't as fun.

Although time is measured out in hours, days, weeks and years, our perception of time can dramatically impact it. It's how the same day can seem to go exceptionally fast for one person (adults) and extremely slow to someone else (a child). This got me thinking about the time we are in right now, which is uncertain.

We have the ability to look at the future as the best of time or the worst of time. Even in the midst of unfortunate events, we can choose to see the best of it or the best in others and especially the best in us. Even in bountiful times, plenty of people see the worst of everything, so truly, time is what we make it. Choose wisely.

One Word

2008-09-30T15:50:00.000-06:00

A friend forwarded one of those "get to know your friend better" Emails recently, but this one allowed you to answer only with one word. I found it interesting and tough! Some of the questions were more difficult than others, especially to answer in one word.

This got me thinking about my one word themes for the year. I started many years ago...actually God gave them to me and continues to do so. Usually in the fall, close to the holidays, I am given a word that will summarize the year to come. Trust me; the word is from God. It is written on a blank white board, and it hasn't always been a word/theme I'd like. But it has been accurate, nonetheless.

When I get the word, my mind immediately races to what it will mean. I should just give up. I'm never right! God always has something else in mind. It is totally amazing to start to look back at 2008 and see my word at work. This year, it has been "soar". I thought I would soar as a writer and sell a bazillion books; nope. I thought I'd soar as a speaker and increase my trips around the country; wrong. I thought my health would finally soar from beating Lyme Disease; wrong again, although I've made some great progress. No, as I look back, it is my faith that has been soaring by leaps and bounds. Countless avenues have pointed me up!

With the move to Colorado (leaving some dear friends behind) and financial times getting tough, I feel this is a very appropriate place for me to be. I eagerly await 2009 and what God has planned for me.

Give it a try. Find some time to be quiet with God and let Him share with you. You won't regret it!

Give me a break!

2008-09-26T12:01:00.000-06:00

I cannot believe, especially when our government is already in debt beyond comprehension, that is it bailing out another industry. Companies who were greedy enough to give out loans to those who really couldn't afford them should be shot, not supported.

People who actually signed on the dotted line to outrageous loans should have all their credit cards taken away and be put on an allowance! In fact, I want to know why it is that these folks, who are crying poor now, have a nicer car than me, have several cars in fact and have boats, jet skies and motor homes!? Those of us who were smart with our money and didn't buy everything we saw to keep up with the Jones are now being punished. I think we should collect all the material items these idiots collected on credit and spread the wealth. My husband would love a boat.

Something is seriously wrong here folks. And when everyone points a finger at someone else, we have insulted the people who died fighting for this country . They did not ask for their country to give to them but gave to it! The American way used to stand for taking ownership and responsibility for one's life but enjoying great freedoms and opportunities in this abundant land.

Stick with it

2008-09-19T11:01:00.000-06:00

Okay, I have to confess something. I haven't been lifting weights on a regular basis since I moved to Colorado. I've kept up my cardio, but I just haven't been inspired to do my weight-bearing exercise.

For almost three months, I've been lax. I think that is the longest break I've ever taken in 20 years...and I can tell.

It is amazing how quickly muscles weaken. I started back up faithfully this week, and I'm sore! Now I remember why I don't like any time to lapse. It is much more work to start and stop than it is to just keep plugging away. Doing anything is better than nothing.

So when the temptation comes, don't submit to it! Keep with your program, even if you adapt it. You'll be glad you did.

A Matter of Choice?

2008-09-17T09:43:00.000-06:00

I recently started watching The Cleaner with Benjamin Bratt. It's a show about a former drug addict who now has a mission from God to help others. He has passion and sensitivity towards those in the dark shadows of the night. I've never drank or did drugs, so I have found it fascinating to watch people put their lives at risk in order to get high.

We all make bad decisions, and that is really what they have done. Instead of facing their issues, pain or hurts, they have turned to something to numb it. People don't just use drugs and alcohol to do this. I've seen people use food, sleep and even exercise as an escape. Anything to an extreme becomes an addiction.

What I did not agree with after last night's program was a PSA about how doing drugs is a "disease"...they have no choice in the matter. This is so far from the truth! We all have a choice to turn right or left. Once the substance is in their system, yes, they can addicted. It does become difficult to break the habit...any habit is hard to break. BUT we all have the same choices. Drugs are everywhere for anyone to find. Alcohol is in ever store. Food surrounds us.

I cannot say that drug addicts or alcoholics have a disease and therefore remove the responsibility that is theirs. I can say, however, that society is letting us all down by pitching and selling quick fixes...drugs, diets, get rich schemes, etc. Our world does not want to do the hard work. Our society does not want to face the music of owning our own junk. We need to take responsibility-plain and simple.

With that said, the Cleaner has increased my awareness of hurting people who need unconditional love and support. Something is broken, and it won't get fixed with judgement. We should not look at it as a disease and treat it but rather look at a broken person and how to mend their hearts.

What says you?

A Life Well Lived

2008-09-15T16:01:00.000-06:00

Attending funerals is not high on my list of things to do. I've been to too many already in my soon to be 42 years of life. I must say, however, that the service on Saturday for Dr. Dallas E. Shafer was a celebration of his life, all he did for God's kingdom and all the love he shared with the world, no matter who you were.

Over 2,000 people came to show their respect, love and thanks to a man who gave all he have, every day of his life. His final wishes were for us all to take the baton and carry on his mission of serving others. Even at his funeral, he was thinking of others and blessing others. Truly, he lived life well.

He challenged each of us to do our best, be our best and give our best...which only can happen when we are right with the Lord. So in the midst of sorrow, bright light came...a reminder of who loves us and whose we are.

Season of Change

2008-09-12T12:04:00.000-06:00

Fall quickly arrived in Colorado like the flick of a switch. Bam! It is no longer summer. The temperatures are cooler, the days shorter and the leaves are beginning to change. Although I want to fight it, resistance is useless. It's coming, so I might as well embrace it.

Makes me think of life changes. Even though we don't want some changes to happen, they do. I'm attending a funeral tomorrow of a man who has been like a father to me for 29 years. My initial response was pure anger...it wasn't fair and I wasn't happy about it. But, I knew anger wouldn't serve me well, so I put my energies into praying for healing and quality of life. Given only two months to give, Dallas made it a year and a half. He fought hard, and God blessed us with Dallas just a little longer.

Loss of loved ones is a most difficult change. I've been here before with my mom and dad. What I've learned is that we are forever changed because of it, but we must live on in honor of the love we received from them. And thankfully, we have memories to warm our hearts on those cold and dreary days of grief.

So with the changing of the seasons this year, my life will forever change. The world won't be quite as bright without Dallas in it, but I pray I can be half the person he was and give to the world he spent his life changing for the better.

ON SEPTEMBER 11, LET’S FORGET

2008-09-11T11:41:00.000-06:00

I wrote this some time ago but thought it was fitting for today:

Everyone is recalling 9/11/01 and what went wrong.

Let us be grateful for what we have and put

negative thoughts where they belong.

Let’s forget selfishness and looking out for number one.

Instead, let’s thank our country’s heroes for all they have done.

Let’s forget the blaming game that is full of hate.

Rather, let’s give gifts of love, no matter what the date.

Let’s forget violence, whether it be

body, mouth or mind.

Let kind deeds, words and thoughts be

what people find.

We’ll never forget what happened this day.

But, we can now change how we live and what we say.

Remember 9/11 but also forget.

For what you give is what you will get.

Lorraine Bosse-Smith

9/11/02

What says you?

2008-08-27T14:17:00.000-06:00

I finally just read "Five People You Will Meet in Heaven." Although the stories got lengthy for my fast personality style, it was a sweet and very touching book. It's a great reminder to us all that our lives DO have purpose and that we are ALL put on this earth for relationships.

What says you?

Bad Endings

2008-08-25T09:36:00.000-06:00

We went and saw Mirrors this weekend. I'm not a big fan of scary movies, but it looked interesting. It certainly had a unique plot and could have been an okay movie if it weren't for the ending. I won't give it away for you, but it tainted the entire movie. What could have been a B- ended up a D-!

A good reminder for us all. Often times the in-between can be forgotten, but how we end is what is remembered. Let's all finish the race well!

A Real Winner

2008-08-20T09:42:00.000-06:00

I watched the women's track and field last night. Two athletes saw the gold in front of then and then lost it. I was really impressed with the hurdler American gal. She gave no excuses and said, "Only those who don't hit or knock down a hurdler win." She went on to say, "I usually have two bad races a year, and unfortunately, this was one of them." To me, she IS a winner. Her attitude showed more to me than her performance.

Later, the cameras showed her crying. You could tell she was crushed...her hopes and dreams shattered until another four years, if she can stay with her training. This was a tough moment, but she showed what she was made. She may not have won the gold, but she's a winner in my book.

How it Should Be

2008-08-18T19:30:00.000-06:00

We recently went up to South Dakota for a weekend visit. No matter where we went or what we were doing, the people were friendly. They took the time to say hello and even waited for a reply. In particular, we ate at Desperados in Hill City, SD. The owner made a point to come over, introduce himself and get to know us. When we waited a spell for our meal, he got after it and ensured we had our food in a timely manner. The food was exceptional, but it's the service I'll remember for years to come.

Dan took pride in his restaurant...as it should be! If you are ever in the South Dakota area, I highly recommend Desperados. You'll get real fine western food with the cowboy greed: do and give what you said you would.

Healthy Weight

2008-08-14T14:51:00.000-06:00

I just read an article with the headline reading "Overweight is Healthy." Although the title is misleading, the information it contained was actually correct. What it address was inside health. Weight really doesn't matter...we are all made different with different genes, bodies, frames, bones, etc. What does count, however, is your blood pressure and cholesterol levels. When these are right, you are healthy.

The article brought up the example of a thin person with high blood pressure. It is true...thin doesn't equal healthy. Heck, being fit doesn't mean you are healthy either. It's all about balance...for all of us.

When I work with clients, I encourage them to not focus on their outward appearance but rather on getting their insides healthy. When that is right, everything else settles into the right place. Some folks want to lose some outward shell, and that is fine. Others are okay with a little layer to keep them warmer. Either way, just be sure to monitor your vital signs and keep them in good ranges. Good health looks good on you!

Swing Vote

2008-08-11T16:19:00.000-06:00

We saw the Kevin Costner movie this weekend, and he did, as usual, a great job. This was a different role for him, and it was probably one of his most powerful...if people were paying attention.

Without giving the movie away, he has to vote on the President, and his vote will determine the entire election. After struggling in many ways with the pressure and power of it all, he comes down to a debate with both candidates. Although the question he asks is pointed, his statements leading up to it touched me the most. I hope Americans didn't miss it.

He said he sat there ashamed...ashamed because he has taken everything that this country has to offer but has given nothing back in return. He has been given every opportunity but has taken none of them. With all our faults, we are still a country that cares not only for its own people but the people of the world. The attention to the Olympics reminds us of the spirit of America: ALL people.

What have we done lately for our country? This was a good reminder, for me anyway, to look inward a bit more than outward. If you don't like what you see, set out to make it better. "Be the change you want to see in the world!" One person CAN make a difference.

Good is the Eternal Enemy of the Best

2008-08-06T16:30:00.000-06:00

I recently attended a conference in Atlanta, and the speaker kept repeating the above statement. I think it has taken several days for it to really sink in.

Doing poorly is obvious...we stink at it and know it. If we are giving low-level efforts, we get shabby results. BUT...when we do JUST good enough, we may not be able to see how much further we really have to go. Personally, I think this is the state of our country!

We have gotten lazy. We do just enough to get by. I see it in customer service every where I turn. Some how our attitude has shifted to, "hey, you'll take what I give you and like it!" Now, I'm generalizing, of course.

Many people are still striving to be and give their best. Bravo! Let's all keep giving, as Mother Theresa said, until it hurts. One by one, we can reclaim something that made our country great!

New Behavior

2008-07-30T16:28:00.000-06:00

Moving to Colorado and the great wilderness area behind our house meant converting our outdoor cat, Edmond, into an indoor one. He's adjusting quite well. I think he was ready to settled down and enjoy the cush life! However, Edmond still thinks he can scratch at the ground, like he did outside.

I've been working with him to re-enforce the good behavior (using the scratch post instead of the carpet) and then spraying him with water when he attempts to shred the carpet. It's not his fault. The rules changed, and he is still learning the inside rules.

We often get into habits, and when we try to change them, we revert to the old ways. It is what we knew. May times, we were taught these old rules and had them implanted into our minds, so changing them takes time.

Give yourself some understanding...you are still in the learning curve. Don't beat yourself up when you have an "ooops" to the old behavior but celebrate the times you do remember! Before you know it, you'll be on a new path with the old a mere memory.

Child-like Wonder

2008-07-28T17:32:00.000-06:00

When I was running this morning, a young kid stopped, dropped his bike and squatted down on the trail. It looked like he was hurt, so I came up to him to ask. "Nope," he said. "I had to check out this cool catapillar." I was glad he wasn't hurt, and I was actually thankful for the quick break. It was hot out there! But as I ran away, leaving him to stare endlessly at this neat creature, I recalled the same wonder I had as a kid.

What happens to us when we become adults? Why do we zoom past cool things and move on to the next step so quickly? Some how we lose the awe and wonder. The world is still an amazing place. It's summer, get out there and BE in it!

Traditions

2008-07-26T12:03:00.000-06:00

Here in Loveland, Colorado, the Fair has occurred since the 1880's. Through the years, they have added new events to keep it fresh. But from what I read in the paper this morning, it is the traditions that matter most to the folks.

I like traditions. Special holidays, moments, events...these are what I remember and treasure from childhood. From the simple to the complex, traditions give us a sense of comfort and belonging.

Experiencing new things is great, too, but don't forget to keep some of those special traditions alive and well.

A little kindness goes a long way

2008-07-25T14:12:00.000-06:00

Remember me sharing about the ordeal I endured to get a desk set? The product was defective and the staff members rude. Today, I had the opportunity to share my frustration with upper management. She was gracious and kind as she listened and agreed that some of their systems needed evaluating...and some folks just shouldn't work in customer service!

Her attitude was completely different than that of my experience thus far with Office Max. It didn't make up for the headache and inconvenience they put me through, but it did make a difference of my opinion of the entire company.

It's a reminder that we could all use a little more kindness in our lives and should look for those times when we can be the giver of it.

Enjoy the scenery

2008-07-23T17:37:00.000-06:00

I went on a lovely hike today with a friend I've known since I was about 18 years old. We enjoyed taking a walk down memory lane and getting some exercise. We're both at different ages and stages of life now, but we both agreed that one of the benefits of being a little older is stopping to smell the roses.

When we were younger, we'd power hike and push hard. Granted, I still do at times, but I can also kick back a bit and take in the scenery. The pressure is off to impress anyone, and could just have a nice visit. We did.

Be sure to slow down enough to be in the moment...the here and now, even on your walks down memory lane.

An Opportunity

2008-07-21T11:13:00.001-06:00

I was just on the phone with a friend, and we were sharing about how places don't give customer service any more. In fact, entire industries are suffering from a lack of it and may not exist in five years. What he said next, though, caught my attention. He said, "Well, this is an opportunity."

As we explored what that meant, we discussed how we all can shine brightly by simply doing the right things with kindness. My mind went further. This IS our chance to "be the change we want to see in the world."

Rather than complain about what we aren't getting, give it. Instead of focusing on how people are not behaving, be better. As Mother Theresa said, "Love them anyway." Every closed door is indeed an opportunity if we choose to view it in the right light.

Self Help

2008-07-18T12:56:00.000-06:00

I read an interesting article last night about how we have moved from very little customer service to none at all. The gal pointed out how we are now doing most everything ourselves: booking travel on-line, self-checkout at the grocery store, on-line banking, computer check in at airports, and on and on her list went. Before we know it, we'll be cutting our own hair and conducting surgery on ourselves...all in the name of money!

Companies are pushing more and more responsibility back to us...yet they are charging more. Coke just announced today that it needs to increase its costs to consumers because we are drinking less Coke. That is my problem HOW exactly?? How about providing better products? How about giving us some service??? What has happened?

Does anyone remember the days of companies trying very hard to get our patronage? I recall days when they went over and beyond the call of duty to ensure you were a satisfied customer. Now they don't seem to care at all.

It really is time for us to fight back and give our business to those who do try to give quality products and services. Otherwise, we have no one to blame but ourselves. The old saying, "We train people how to treat us" applies here.

Determination

2008-07-17T17:13:00.000-06:00

Since moving to Loveland, I've been running this path that is all up hill on the way back. It isn't the biggest hill, but it's 1 1/2 miles long. It's been hot and humid, so it's been a tough run. Today, the cloud cover was the perfect opportunity to get out there and run. So I did. On the return, sure enough, I started losing steam...again.

This time, however, I had a talk with myself. "Self, you have been through much worse. You have beaten Lyme Disease for crying out loud! You can do this. God gives you strength; use it." So, I kept my lazy butt moving. I shaved 3 minutes off my time today. That was a good feeling.

The moral of the story? When you are facing an obstacle, remember the other times God and you got through it..beat it. You can do it!

Anyone out there?

2008-07-16T17:59:00.000-06:00

Okay, I've been trying to blog on a regular basis, but the concept behind blogging isn't a solo event...it's a two way street. Someone shares a thought or idea, and others respond and build upon it. It becomes a conversation between interested parties. It's a great way to stay connected, too.

So, anyone out there reading this? If so, I'd love to hear from you and what YOU think. You never know...something you say might be just what someone else was thinking or needed to hear.

Anyone? Anyone? Bueller...

Aging Gracefully

2008-07-15T18:09:00.000-06:00

Okay, I have to admit it. I have been watching The Closer on a regular basis. I didn't think I'd get pulled into the show (especially with her false accent), but I have. Kyra Sedgwick's role is definitely quirky (almost obnoxious), but something about her character was real. Now that I have seen the first episode of this season, I realize what I liked about her: she is a woman in her 40's and looked it.

And I mean this is a good way. She's attractive, but she wasn't perfect. It made her tolerable and approachable. But her "new" look totally disappointed me. Her face doesn't move when she talks now, and her eyes are hidden behind the plastic. Why??? Now she's just annoying.

For those folks who have embarked on the journey of facial surgery, I am not judging you. We all have flaws that we can only determine if we can live with or not. Unfortunately, I think we all spend too much time comparing ourselves to those "perfect" people, who, by the way, need help to look that way too! I have heard commercials lately with a husband saying, "My wife looks 20 now that she is 50 with such and such project." Good grief! When looking good at your age isn't good enough, we've gone too far.

My approach: eat right, exercise, manage my stress and get plenty of sleep and water. Accept what comes. I know everyone has different genes, and some may need more help than others (and I'm all for a little help), but think hard about it before you do anything "major." If God wanted us all to look alike (and like we were 20 all the time), then He would have.

PS Ask me how I feel about this when I'm 70!

The Heat is On

2008-07-13T16:21:00.000-06:00

It has been hot here in Colorado with unusually high humidity. I've been out the last couple of days running, and I thought I'd die the one day. When I returned to learn it was 98 degrees with 45% humidity, I knew why.

Heat changes everything. I may be in good condition to run, but my body exerts itself more in the heat. Humidity makes it even worse. My body has more moisture to attempt to wick away, and is unable to cool itself. Needlesstosay, we should all be very careful on hot and humid days. I paid a price...I was dizzy and overheated most of the day.

The good news is that my run the next day was a little easier since it was about 10 degrees cooler. Drink plenty of water this summer and don't forget your electrolytes!

By Association

2008-07-12T10:57:00.001-06:00

I haven't been watching much of the Tour de France this year. It just isn't the same with a lot of riders out. I still think Floyd Landis is innocent! Regardless if the individual was indeed doping, riders were disqualified this year if a single member of their team was suspected or caught. This has removed many riders.

Whether you agree with the regulation or not, this is a harsh reality, isn't it? We can often be judged by who we are associating with and hanging around. It doesn't mean we have to become who we hang with, but associations will be made. I guess it makes me want to choose even more wisely those people in my life.

The older I have gotten, I have certainly gone for quality not quantity. Even in my business life, I want to work with honorable people. Food for thought I guess...

A New American Idol

2008-07-11T16:21:00.000-06:00

Since moving to Colorado, I've picked up reading the local paper (shocker, I know!). I've enjoyed the local happenings and events, but I'm also reminded why I don't like reading the paper.

Apparently, some female inmates from a prison had their own "American Idol" contest, and of course, it's making the news. They are getting attention and popularity.

Is it me or is there something wrong with our criminal system when inmates have a better lifestyle than many hard-working citizens. For crying out loud, they get all their food FREE, a place to sleep without having to pay rent or utilities, workout rooms, libraries and programs such as these. Doesn't seem like hard time to me??

If our jails and prisons are a fun ride, what is the incentive for not committing another crime? I think we really are creating new American Idols.

Focus Forward

2008-07-09T16:58:00.000-06:00

Coming back to Colorado has brought back memories for me. I spent 20 years here, experiencing many successes but also making many mistakes. The flash backs are like watching a movie; it's like another person or another life time ago. Well, it kinda was...I'm certainly not the same person who lived here before.

I spent too many years beating myself up and wondering what I could have done different. I came to a few conclusions: 1) We don't know what we don't know 2) We can only do our best at the time 3) Learn, grow and move on from your mistakes.

Getting stuck in the past doesn't do any one any good. Some times, like in my case, I can look back, smile and tell myself, "You've come a long way, baby!" It's all about focusing ourselves and our energies forward. We can't change the past, today is already over...so let's work at making tomorrow better.

Staycation

2008-07-08T16:53:00.000-06:00

Have you heard the new buzz word this summer? It's Staycation. It is when you can't afford the gas or airline prices to take a real vacation, so you stay at home instead. Hmm. At first, this doesn't sound fun at all. When I'm at home, I ALWAYS see things that need to be done (laundry, dishes, dusting, weeding, etc). However, as I look out my window to the mountains, I am reminded how beautiful our world is...right in our own backyards.

Simple pleasures like taking a walk or bike ride may have a chance of coming back in style. What about hanging out in a hammock? Maybe looking nearby isn't such a bad thing. Any time we can connect with friends and loved ones instead of text messaging, IMing or staring at a computer screen IS indeed a vacation.

This is a test

2008-07-07T18:14:00.000-06:00

No, not of the Emergency Broadcast System, but of life. I think I mentioned how I felt aspects of our move were going very hard. It continued today with running around to four different locations just to get a Colorado driver's license and license plate. Three hours later, we have a piece of paper stating that our licenses will be mailed to us. We did get our car plates.

I had other errands to run but had to sit in my car while a horrendous torrent of rain came down from a summer storm. As I sat there, I contemplated the hard stuff of life. I think some things are just that way but others may be a test for us. Are we showing compassion? Are we being kind? Are we looking out for others? I guess we can look at obstacles as painful, or we can choose to grow from them.

I have a theme going on, don't I? Well, I'm grateful that life allows me to learn a little bit at a time--that I can experience good and bad and glean from them both.

Proud to be an American

2008-07-05T14:08:00.000-06:00

Yesterday we celebrated July 4th by driving up and through the Rocky Mountain National Park. With majestic snow-capped peaks, green meadows, blooming wild flowers and elk playing in a snow field, I was in awe of the amazing country we live in. We met people from around the country who were all enjoying the freedom and privilege that this country provides us.

Amongst all the BBQ's and get togethers, let us remember that we are Americans. We are not a perfect country, but we have more rights, opportunity and quality lifestyle than most of the world. And like anything, it is what me make of it that counts. As JFK once said, "Ask not what your country can do for you but what YOU can do for your country.

Here's to our country!

Suffering Serves a Purpose

2008-07-03T12:39:00.001-06:00

During our move, we've had some challenges getting furniture in good condition, which has resulted in many lost hours, delays and frustration. As I received yet another call informing me that we weren't getting what we were promised, I wondered why it was going so hard. Although this isn't big in the scope of things, I've been suffering; it's very real stress. But as with any type of suffering-from the small to the large-we are refined through the process.

We have a choice, of course, of how we react. We can acknowledge that good always comes from things or we can get angry. I have certainly had my moments, but I know this will all work out. Through the trials, I am made more mature, more compassionate and more understanding. These are all good things, and for that, I can be thankful. It doesn't make the waiting and mishandled situation any easier, but it puts my focus forward.

Where is all the customer service??

2008-07-02T14:59:00.000-06:00

Moving is stressful enough without having trouble getting what you paid for. For two weeks now, I have been trying to get a new office desk set. Between rude staff members, damaged goods, lack of communication and flat out failing to deliver what we paid for, I am left wondering where in the world has good customer service gone??

When I shared my frustration about Office Max with a friend, his reply was "I'd rather eat dirt than give my business to Office Max." After my experience, I'd have to agree. Unfortunately, it isn't just them. Many places seem to be giving us less, charging us more and being darn right rude about it. We ARE the customer, and I think it is time we stood up for ourselves.

Yes times are tough, but that never justifies treating people poorly. Without lowering ourselves to their childish and crass ways, we need to remind them that we pay their salary. We ARE why they are in business, and we can take it elsewhere.

In my case, I would return the desk set if I could, but we already put most of it together. We're stuck with a desk that is missing a critical piece. I did, however, demand some compensation, and I was given a discount on the entire order. This, by no means, gives me my time back (countless phone calls, etc.) or reduces my stress and inconvenience, but it is at least an offering of some sort of apology. I'll take it, and I will never give them any business again.

The Total You has moved!

2008-07-01T16:59:00.000-06:00

My apologies for not posting my blog on a regular basis. My husband got transfered/promoted, and so we have moved from Southern California to Northern Colorado. I forgot how much work moving is...whew!

The process of being unsettled, uprooted and transitioned into a new community has reminded me of how important a solid foundation is in life. All certainty is out the window with a move...you are lucky to find your underwear the first day or so! But, if you truly know whose you are, where your real certainty comes from and where you are headed, you can face the changes with confidence.

The move involved leaving behind some very dear friends...ones that come around once in a lifetime if you are lucky. At first, I was very sadden by the distance (in miles) that is now between us. Yet if I go back to knowing whose I am, I can be at peace to know that these friendship have a bond that 1,700 miles cannot break. I believe a stronger, deeper relationship will evolve. Any change or uncomfortable situation provides us the opportunity to grow. As with everything, we have a choice. We can grow or we can become bitter and angry.

So it is with you. What changes are taking place in your life? I know they can sting on the onset, but have faith...good will come of it if you choose to believe and desire to grow. For all of us, a better person will be the result.

PS The new contact information for The Total You is:

1151 Eagle Drive
#334
Loveland, CO 80538
(970) 593-1848

PPS I will try to blog on a regular basis.

Worth the investment

2008-04-01T15:13:00.000-06:00

I just read that a study that estimated the amount of money we would have to spend for machines to do everything that our body does. Taking into account that there are some things we do that just can't be duplicated, if you had to pay for it, you'd be looking at five MILLION dollars. Wow. I always knew our bodies were amazing creations.

Yet, some how, we hesitate to spend money on keeping them finely tuned. As a society, we much rather throw medicine at the problem instead of finding the root cause. Worse yet, we don't seem to be investing in pro-active measures to prevent damage.

It is up to each person to look out for their "million dollar machine". When put in that context, you certainly wouldn't let a $50,000 car rust. You'd wash and wax it, take it in for service, etc. Be sure to give your body the same great care. It's worth the investment.

Renew and Recharge

2008-03-29T10:35:00.000-06:00

I recently spent four days at The Oaks at Ojai health spa. What a wonderful experience. I can't recall ever taking time like that just for me--alone--to rest and renew. This was the perfect place to do so. The food is 100% natural: no sugar, no preservatives and no salt. The program included many exercise classes along with yoga for relaxation. Nestled in the mountains inland from Ventura, the setting was gorgeous.

I met some amazing ladies during my stay. Each one had a unique story of what brought them there: corporate job stress, retirement, change of careers, illness or just plain taking a break from motherhood/wifehood! Each of them gives so much to this world and the people in it. I was proud of every one of them for having the courage to get off the treadmill, if only for a little while.

I had some guilt as I drove up to Ojai...spending money just on me. But, it quickly disappeared as I settled in amongst the others who, because they want to be their best, knew there is a time and season for rest. To all the lovely ladies I met, thank you for being a great example! To everyone else, be sure to make the time to renew and recharge your batteries. Everyone benefits when we are hole.

Today is a new day!

2008-03-19T17:44:00.000-06:00

Happy Spring! With Easter approaching (rather quickly, I might add...it's so early this year!), I find myself thinking of how different I am today than in years past. And, I pray that I can say the same in another 10 years! Deo Valente.

This is the time of year to be thankful for that opportunity to be a new creation...one of love, compassion and life-giving. May you be a positive force in this world and have a blessed Easter!

Manage Your Stress

2008-03-10T17:03:00.000-06:00

I haven't written a blog entry for awhile. Stress consumed me with word of a dear friend's illness taking a turn for the worst. Upon returning home, another friend's husband died, losing the battle of cancer. Yet another friend's husband is in critical care. My busy schedule that week including catching up from being gone, speaking, leading groups, teaching fitness classes and a myriad of other things. This same week, I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis...probably as result of my long-term fight of Lyme Disease. It is not wonder that I ended up getting the crud this past weekend. Ugh.

Stress is awful. If we don't manage it, it WILL do something to us. I now have a very real gauge of my stress levels. When I'm not coping well, I hurt something fierce...can barely move. I'm being forced to once again evaluate how I handle things. Physical activity may not be my solution for stress management when my pain levels are high. I am on yet another journey.

I don't know your stress or what helps you deal with it, but whatever it is...do it!

Life is messy

2008-02-19T10:00:00.001-07:00

I recently saw the movie Definitely Maybe. Without telling you about the whole movie, the gist is that a father shares with his daughter his dating history and how he met her mother. To say the least, his life was complicated with a series of women woven in and out. I suspect that if each of us shared from beginning to end about our life, it would indeed be a complicated, messy tale.

And, I think that is okay. Through our decisions, good and bad, we learn and grow. When we get it right, we reinforce patterns and behaviors that are beneficial. When we blow it, we discover what we DON'T want in our life and what we SHOULD'NT do. Both are important as we strive to become more mature, giving of life and love to this world.

So, don't be ashamed if your life isn't perfect. No one's is, and we should just accept the fact, embrace it and learn from it.

Take it easy

2008-02-18T20:23:00.000-07:00

Everyone seems to be sick right now with one of the many bugs going around. I could tell today that I was fighting it and certainly didn't want it. I still taught my spin class but backed off and did an easier program...one of endurance rather than pushing the limits. It was just right for me today.

Exercising moderately or lightly when you are fighting something or have a touch of a cold can help you sweat out the toxins and beat the bug. You can actually get over something quicker. However, the caveat here is if you are running a temperature, then don't workout. Period. Your body is working overtime to fight and needs its energy to do so. When you have a temperature, the best thing to do is rest and drink lots of fluids. I know it can be discouraging to get off the fitness path you've tried so hard to stay on, but you'll benefit in the long run by not making yourself worse. By taking it easy for a day or so, you can curtail your sickness. If you push when you shouldn't, you could get the full-blown, nasty bug for a longer period of time.

So as the song says, "Take it easy..."

Letting Go

2008-02-13T21:00:00.000-07:00

One of my favorite songs right now is by Richard Marx where he sings about not having the courage to fly, but he always had wings. One line in particular states, "I was so busy to keep holding on when I should have been letting go." It's pretty powerful in the song...he finally lets go and allows what God has placed inside of him to come out...and he soars.

I don't know about you, but I often find myself at crossroads in my life..."which way should I go," "what should I do..." and it is so easy to force or make something happen by our own might. Sure, we need to participate and be active in our lives, but I also believe certain situations require us to stop pushing, to let go and let God.

This is the slow route, of course. Our instant-gratification society is impatient, wanting immediate answers and results. As I use to tell my peers in corporate America who wanted answers from me when I was on my way to the rest room "Sure, I'll give you an answer if you MUST have it right now, but it may not be the right one."

Letting go can be scary yet absolutely freeing at the same time. Give it a try some time...

Is it me?

2008-02-07T18:39:00.001-07:00

John Tesh was discussing the concept of "sports fans" the other night on his radio program. He had examples of people painting their bodies and standing on tables shouting at the top of their lungs, rooting for "their team." Apparently, psychologists have determined that people consider their team their family. When their team wins, they win. They have transfered their feelings to a sports team, and if that team loses, they feel as if they have lost.

I admit, I am not a sports fan. In fact, all of my life, I have preferred PLAYING the sport rather than watching it. Personally, I think too many people waste too much time sitting on the sidelines watching other people live life when they should be out IN it. I can appreciate the social element of watching a game, but I think it has completely gotten out of hand. These teams are not our families and should not be more important.

Is it me or as a society have we lost sight of what really matters? We seem to worship these athletes, yet we under pay teachers who are shaping our future. We idolize these sports and the players, buying all the gear to look the part when real-life families are falling apart. Aren't there more important things to give our heart and soul to? Don't get me wrong, it's all entertainment. But, it shouldn't be at the expense of what really matters. I'm a person who strives for balance. What do you think?

Chunk down your goals

2008-02-06T20:26:00.001-07:00

I had a good run today and was able to sprint up a portion of a hill that, not too long ago, I couldn't run up without stopping. It reminded me that the best way to reach our goals is to chunk them down into small, obtainable pieces.

At first, my goal was to simply run up the hill without stopping. When I was able to do that, I then decided to pick up the pace. Now, I'm attempting to sprint up it...a small piece at a time.

Have any big goals for 2008? Chunk them down into pieces so that you can see progress and small victories, which will keep you encouraged and motivated towards the end goal. One step at a time gets us there.

Take the good with the bad

2008-02-04T17:04:00.000-07:00

We headed up to Mammoth Mountain to ski this past weekend, and the snow was amazing. They got seven feet (yes feet) of snow while we were there. The problem: we couldn't see our own hands and feet! The winds were so strong and the snow so heavy that visibility was non existent.

I found myself grumbling as I skied on pure, heavenly snow because I couldn't see where in the world I was going. At times, we didn't know if we were even heading down hill or off towards a cliff! I began to think, as I have been known to do occasionally, about life. Why is it that we expect all the good things but don't want the bad? When it comes to fantastic powder, wicked storms are what bring the wonderful white stuff. Without the storm, we don't have the enjoyable skiing.

So, I tucked my head down, gritted my teeth and skied some incredible snow...for a while anyway. It was darn-right cold out. I accepted the good with the bad. Life is the same way, if we would only quit fighting it and accept it. And when we do get one of those drop-dead gorgeous, sunny and warm ski days with miraculous snow, we should sing praises of thanksgiving for it is truly a blessed gift!

Make it Fun!

2008-01-30T10:32:00.000-07:00

Last night during spin class, I played some funny songs that people sang along with or laughed at. Our hour together went fast. We still worked out hard, but by having a little fun, it made the time go by quickly.

I believe this is a key to a successful fitness program. If you don't like what you are doing, you aren't going to do it consistently. And we need to be consistent if we want to see results.

What do you love to do? Whatever it is, make it fun and you'll stick with it longer. Being healthy isn't an event but a life-long process.

Make the Most of Every Day

2008-01-28T16:39:00.001-07:00

Wow. What a great movie: We saw The Bucket List with Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson. The acting is superb, and the message will certainly make you think; I know I did.

Without ruining the movie for you, let me ask you this: if you learned that you had only months to live, what would you want to do with your time? Makes you pause, doesn't it? For me, the movie reminded me that we should live today as it is our last but plan on living forever, as a friend told me recently. None of us gets out of here alive, and we aren't guaranteed tomorrow.

Our life is a gift from God; what we do with that life is our gift back to Him. Make the most of today and leave a legacy of love behind. That is truly the greatest adventure of all!

Life Has Resistence

2008-01-27T18:07:00.001-07:00

Todays run was a struggle. Not because I necessarily felt bad, although my left knee was giving me some trouble, but because the winds were intense. I squeezed my run in between rain storms, so it was blowing hard. My normal pace (not that it is record-breaking fast) was slowed down, and the run harder.

This got me thinking, once again, about life. No matter how good your life, you will encounter resistance along the way. Personally, I think it is a good thing. Oh, it doesn't always feel that way in the midst of it, but resistance makes us stronger...better. Without some, we may coast through and not fully developed into our potential. I don't know about you, but I want to be my best. So when life hits you with some resistance, do what I did on my run: put your head down, buckled down and press on!

Keep climbing

2008-01-27T11:41:00.000-07:00

Maybe it is because I am a hiker and love the mountains that I have associated my battle with Lyme Disease as a difficult hike up a very steep mountain. The challenge for me has been that I have no clue where the top of the mountain is and how long it will take me to get there. I've had to learn to enjoy the journey and not worry about summiting.

As I was driving over the hill from our house to the Palm Desert area for a book signing yesterday, I noticed how low the snow came down. It was a beautiful reminder to me of this very point...that amazing scenery is all around, not just at the top. I like conquering things, but I'm learning to enjoy the journey and what God has for me along the way. I think if we focus too much on the top, we might just be missing something. So, let's keep climbing, but let's also pause along the way to take it in all in.

PS I'm including some photos from our recent climb up Mt. Whitney, the tallest peak in the Continental US. This was a feat for me since I was still struggling with Lymes. Enjoy the show!

We all Need a Day of Rest

2008-01-23T23:15:00.000-07:00

Ah the highs and lows of life. I woke up completely swollen and unable to move this morning. I couldn't hold a glass of water to take Aleve. Today was my day to run, but I had to cancel. There was no pushing past the pain today.

Over the past several years during my treatment of Lymes, I learned a valuable lesson: rest. For someone who is goal oriented and high energy, this has not been an easy lesson. The only way to improve is to face these kinds of situations, unfortunately, and make the right decisions. So, I listened to my body today and opted for rest.

I get five to six days of exercise in a week, equally at least 7 to 8 hours. A rest day is a good thing. The body has a chance to recover and rebuild. Rest is part of the equation and provides us with balance.

Now the next step for me is to rest without guilt. I still feel bad and unproductive when I rest, but I am getting better. Like I've told my friends, they don't have 12-Step Programs for Type A personalities because we'd come in and want to accomplish all 12 steps the first night!

So with that, I accept today and pray that tomorrow is a stronger day. Isn't that all we can do?

Enjoy God's Gifts

2008-01-21T17:27:00.000-07:00

What fun! We went skiing up at Snow Summit (Big Bear area) in California.

I have to admit that I was timid at first. I didn't want to fall and hurt my hands, which don't need any more damage. But on the second run, I decided to pray my way down. I commented on how gorgeous the lake looked beyond the snowy mountain. I thanked God for the ability/strength to ski and asked to enjoy the process and not conquer it. The amazing thing as that as I prayed my way down each and every run, I got more aggressive and skied harder/better. Before you know it, I was tearing up the slope. God gave me a gift of the moment, and I accepted it.

How many times do we miss the gifts? Keep your eyes open wide and your spirit willing.

PS All the exercise (five days a week) and weight training that I do equipped me to have a fabulous time without getting tired or being sore. Being fit isn't for the sake of being fit...it is to make the most of this life we have been given!

Ground Hog Day

2008-01-18T17:45:00.000-07:00

Okay, I feel as if I am living in the movie Ground Hog Day with Bill Murphy. I keep waking up, and it is Friday! The problem is that I’m not getting the benefit of learning a new language or playing the piano. I just get to food shop and do laundry…again!

Serious, the weeks seem to go faster and faster the older I get. My mother was right. I remember complaining as a kid that time was going WAY too slow. She said, “You just wait missy. Time will go by so fast when you are older that your head will spin.” And so it is. Two songs are blurring together in my head…a cross between “You spin me round, round” and “The Twilight Zone!”

I guess when we are younger we measure things by the big events. We hold our breath just waiting for them—Easter, summer vacation, Christmas, etc. As adults, life is made up of the every-day moments more than anything. Some may say that is boring, but to me it is just what it is…life. I don’t really enjoy food shopping, but I’m certainly glad I am able to buy food to eat. Some can’t. I hate doing the laundry, but am grateful for the clothes to wear as I know others may not be so fortunate. So as another Friday springs up on me “I will rejoice and be glad in it for this is the day that the Lord hath made.”

Eat Right and Exercise

2008-01-17T18:12:00.000-07:00

Okay, I can't stay quiet any longer. I saw another ad for Alli, which, by the way, is followed by two pages of super-fine print of all the side effects and cautions. Have you ever read it? Yikes!! All Alli does is give you cramps and diarrhea that leads to eliminating waste...yes, #2. With the average person containing roughly 9 pounds of toxic waste in his/her intestines, if you remove that, you will lose weight. DUH! And guess what? The ad claims you will lose 5 pounds more than regular exercise and diet. What's the big deal?

Five pounds?? Cleaning your system out like this is dehydrating, which will also help you lose weight...temporarily. This is NOT a lifestyle program. This is a product that, in my opinion, has more negatives than positives. Again, make your own call, but someone is making a boat-load of money off of this one. Don't be one of them! Eat right and exercise. It's the only way to real, long-term health.

Face the Day

2008-01-17T13:15:00.000-07:00

I woke up with a stuffy nose and swollen hands. After three years of treatment and finally being cured, I am still dealing with residual pain from my Lyme Disease. The discouragement is like a big heavy Mac truck on my body as I lie in bed. The conversation with myself begins:

“I don’t want to get up. I just want to go back to sleep. I hurt.”

“You’ll feel better once you get up.”

“I’m tired of pushing past pain. Forget it. I’m staying in bed.”

“Come on; get up. Take it slow, and you’ll feel better. I promise.”

“Fine.”

With that, I get up against my own will (well part of myself anyway) and start the process of trying to make the bed and getting dressed, both of which hurt today. I didn’t sleep great--in fact, I haven’t slept great in a week--because of the pain. Sigh.

I’m meeting my friend for run. That’s my only saving grace. I so look forward to our times together. And, I will feel better after my run. I can’t count how many people I have shared that with, but it is always true. We may not feel like exercising at the moment, and it may even be tiring during, but afterwards…ah afterwards…we will feel great! We will have a victory over whatever obstacles, challenges and even excuses we can create. We will have done our body good; and for that, we will never regret it.

Today is no exception. Although I struggled on some hills and had to walk, I finished and was glad I went for our run. The blue sky was a little bluer when I was done, the snow-capped mountains breath-taking and the sounds of nature soothing. Yes, I’m glad I got out of bed and faced the day!

Be in the Moment

2008-01-14T11:25:00.000-07:00

What a great run! My friend and I actually went longer than we anticipated because we got in a groove. Running with someone has forced me to be in the moment more. I’ve noticed that I’m so goal oriented that I conquer a task but don’t always feel like I was there. Ever get that sensation…like you are on the outside looking in…on yourself?

Anyway, when I play music, I get so focused on “doing” that I am not “being.” When I run with my friend, however, I hear things (like my breathing), feel things (like the cool, crisp air on my skin) and see things (like the incredible pink evening sky as the sun was setting). It’s a new experience. It was an awesome run!

Eat to Live, Don't Live to Eat

2008-01-11T15:45:00.000-07:00

I am so sick of the NutriSystem commercials. Ugh. The one for men isn’t as obnoxious, but the one for women makes my toe nails curl…and I keep them very short!!

Have you ever read the fine print? Try it some time. Focus only on the itty-bitty words that flash for a second in the lower left-hand corner. One statement is “Results not typical and achieve prior to being on NutriSystem.” So then what DOES their product do?

I can’t personally attest to what they taste like, but did you know that you never EVER have to refrigerate them? EVER?? That means chemicals, folks. Yuck. With their product, you are trading healthy, wholesome foods for packaged, toxic-filled plastic boxes.

I appreciate the concept of food coming straight to your door, but try one of those places where you cook up healthy meals that last a month or purchase the book Once a Month Cooking by Lagerborg and Wilson. I also have a cookbook based upon your personality type that makes it FAST, FUN, FRIENDLY or FACTUAL, depending upon your bent. In either case, you are in control of the ingredients. Just remember, eat to live don’t live to eat!